Totally OT

Anyone else dealing with an elderly parent? My Mom is 91 and things are changing. My 3 brothers are out of state. I'm it. I love her and admire her BUT things are changing. Are any of you going through this? I'll take any advice. She is still sharp to a degree but it is changing. It has become very noticeable lately. She doesn't notice but I do. I'm dealing with it. What kind of approach do you make? PC :huh:

lanny thanks for the input. I just had her at the ear doctor yesterday. She can't insert the hearing aids, her fingers are too nimble. She is having trouble following instructions, I see the decline. She thinks she is still on top of the world. Bless her heart. I did call my oldest brother and told him what I'm saying now, my other brother came in from Philly last week and witnessed for himself.

She has a living will in order, I have POA . Finances are in order also, she has none. I'm not being funny here, Mom never believed in leaving anything to anybody, not her style. Her attitude is I'll take care of me, you take care of you. You have to love it, great Scottish attitude. PC

---My own mother passed away 1 year ago. She was 91. ---There are so many things you will need to deal with here that you need local advice from someone you can sit down with and talk to and refer to as new issues come up. There are many variables that may come up or may not come up. ------Does she have a will? Who is the executor? How are her finances? Can she provide care for herself? What are her current health issues? Who will take care of her as her health declines? For example, my own mother was taking various medications. However, her eyesight was so bad she couldn't read the labels and overdosed on calcium (which she shouldn't have been taking anyway) and ended up in the hospital and couldn't recognize her own family. The doctor recognized the symptoms as calcium overdose and brought her out of it and she returned home. BUT that required a change of living as we now had to have a qualified person oversee her medications. ---The maze of medicare and medicaid can require advice as to what and how much, etc. As things decline the landscape changes and so do the problems and so do the questions and so do the answers. ---Money is a key to many of the answers. Lanny