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I am a grandmother of two children, two different daddy's. Neither one support the children. I am grumpy about this. Certainly not proud, but you deal with what is dealt. That means my pocket. My babies will always be taken care of, but it is not my job. These low life fathers are making it my job. I'm a little pissed. I just don't understand. Children are our lives, vibrant, empty brains that we can fill with knowledge, put up with their nonsense and their iniquity. Why people choose to ignore them astounds me. I did a bitch session tonight with the other Grandma and got a negitive report, silly women, she believes her son. AH I'm gasping right now, don't know what to say. I'm looking for the 2 x 4. Lovingly, PC

Alba...It's on the books, though she was asked to take him off. Tough Zhit. She will eventually get her dues & the children. How much do think is coming her way when he is in jail. No work release.

The other is going back on the books. She foolishly released him because she felt bad he had been arrested for lack of payment. Silly girl. That's why I like the 2 x 4.

I agree that some guys really try and the mothers involved should be more understanding. We must seperate the men from the boys.

My first husband the father of my daughter didn't pay me child support for 9 years. I was pretty stubborn, just determined, I can handle this. Which I did do by the way. When she got in trouble at 13 and reassigned to her Dad, he didn't hesitate on filing for support. I did the payroll and deducted 65$ a week from my check & then had to write the check to Domestic Relations. I wasn't smiling. But I did it. I would see her on the weekend, I never missed a beat. Would cry all the way home. After 2 years I filed for custody, my former husband put her on the street and said "come get her". One of the happiest & sadest days of my life. As much that it pizzed me off, I knew that I was doing good.

It still sorta weighs heavy on me. He was in town to visit our daughter 2 months ago. She lives around the corner and he was there with wife #4. I went there and was very cordial to the wife and then pointed my finger at him standing in the kitchen saying "I want to talk to you". My daughter threw me out. She didn't want a scene, the grandbabies had friends over. So I left. My only satisfaction is that he knows I'm still a little PO'd PC

The law is tough about it.One can be arrested for failure to pay child support.Back child support will stay on the books forever.

It has to be consistent though, and most times it isn't. They will rake the guy that is trying over the coals, and then do nothing to the guys that make fun of the system. What to do?

Some are fathers some are just sperm donors.The only way to deal with the latter is through a court ordered child support.

I am not wired in a manner that allows me to understand how men can walk away from their children.

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Shaggy for 4 kids I know you are paying out the kazoo. Great. Sorry to hear. It is very very costly raising children. My daughter is now with a guy for 3 years and he & me & she are supporting. I thought my job was done, apparantly not. Daddy #1 claims I can't see her therefore I won't pay , that's a lie. I called him on the carpet last night. This is the guy that posted pornographic pictures on Facebook, knowing that his daughter views him. I reaked havock with him and he pulled the pictures down and hasn't posted since. I can be scary at times.

Daddy #2 came to visit last week, very apologetic, I said that's nice. Your child still needs support. He's going to jail for 2-5 upstate come July. Woo Hoo

Frank, you know I love you, good for you. I am at the same place now. I did my job, tired of handing out $$$. Everyone is cut off. ME, I like me, time to start treating myself. :laugh:PC

#4 came to Us with this 'problem'. We just pointed out that our job had been to raise her. Her job is to raise 41. It's not ours. She got the guy to pay then. They live elsewhere. We do what we want. It's how life works. Get them to adulthood and kick them into the world.

patty, i feel sorry for u why should grandma, be asking these questions? i am recently expeincing this. i am father of 4 and pay out my ass. if they dont want to be part of their lives, than forget them. there are good men out there. who will/can be there. f them. my kids know know who daddy is.

I'm not done. If any of you men are out there are not taking care of your children...SHAME ON YOU. It is not my job or anyone elses. IT IS YOURS. Step up and and take care of business. Babies are always babies no matter how old they are. They don't give medals for Mommas but we are the best around. Bre thankfull. PC